Family members and friends of veterans can play a significant supporting role in their journey. Therefore, it is important for family and friends to understand what their veterans are going through.

As a family member or friend of a Veteran, you can play an important role in providing support. People who are close to Veterans are often the first to notice that they are facing a mental health challenge. Letting a Veteran know you’re there for them can help start a conversation. Depending on your relationship with the Veteran, and depending on what they’re going through, your support could range from a small act of kindness to intervening in a crisis.

Coaching Into Care

This VA program provides guidance to Veterans’ family members and friends for encouraging a reluctant Veteran they care about to reach out for support with a mental health challenge.

Free, confidential assistance is available by calling 1-888-823-7458 Monday – Friday, 8 a.m. – 8 p.m. ET, or emailing

In Treatment

Involving family and friends in treatment has been found to improve mental health outcomes not only for the veterans but for themselves as well. For instance, support from intimate relationships facilitates mental health treatment utilization and provides opportunities for veterans to share their concerns. Family and friends can also help ease their feelings of burden and guilt.

There are numerous ways to involve loved ones in treatment plans, including evidence-based interventions available to veterans in the VHA.

  • Behavioral Couples Therapy and Community Reinforcement and Family Training are available for substance use treatment.
  • Cognitive-Behavioral Conjoint Therapy is available for PTSD treatment.

Helpful Tips - Emotion Regulation Skills

Emotion regulation skills have been found to be critical. Both the up regulation and down regulation of emotions can counteract symptoms that veterans commonly experience.

Here are some exercises that can help:

  • Up regulation exercises: physical activity, playing games with friends and family, and getting out of the house
  • These activating exercises can help fight against avoidance and feelings of numbness that veterans often experience.
  • Down regulation exercises: yoga, mindfulness practice, deep breathing, and taking a time-out. These deactivating exercises can help reduce hyperarousal, anger, or frustration.
  • Create of a “shared story” about the deployment, the existing relationships post-deployment, and their future

Veteran Cultural Competence Program

The Veteran Cultural Competence program is a day-long immersive experience in which attendees gain a new perspective on what it is like to be a veteran and the emotions they may experience in day-to-day life.

Throughout the day, veterans lead discussions and tell personal anecdotes to connect with the participants and create a sense of community among veterans and civilians. To end the day, there is a dramatic reading of excerpts from Greek Tragedies by actors from the Theater of War.

For information on how you or your company can participate in a Veteran Cultural Competence program near you, please see our calendar of dates and locations. Feel free to reach out with any questions to Joe Geraci at

Veteran Cultural Competency Training


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